Early last week as I was picking the girls up from daycare one of the teachers said, “Hold on, don’t go yet. There’s something here for you.” She proceeded to run back to Hazeline’s classroom and grab an envelope out of a large stack. As she handed it to me, she said, “I think it’s a party invite.” It had both of my girls’ names on the outside, which I thought was odd since they are in different classes at school. I opened it immediately and despite not recognizing the birthday child’s name, checked the date and determined that we were free. That was it, we got an invitation and the date was free on our calendar – we were going.
But as the date approached, I started to get a little concerned that we wouldn’t know anyone at this party. And as I started to question my girls as to who the birthday child was, they got a little fuzzy on the details. The birthday child isn’t in either of my girls’ classrooms (although she and Hazeline may play together at the end of the day when the classes start to get consolidated) and Greenleigh has never spoken of them in the past. I’ve invited kids to my girls’ parties when I don’t know their parents, but normally my child has a special connection with the other child. Like when I invited Greenleigh’s BFF to her 2nd birthday party. She had been Greenleigh’s best friend since they were months old and still are. It’s common knowledge that they are best friends so it made sense to me to invite her to Greenleigh’s party. And it wasn’t a shock to me when we received an invite for her birthday a month later.
I know the venue where the party is being held and have been to parties there in the past, so I know someone will direct us to their party room, but it’s a bit embarrassing to attend an event where I don’t know the host/hostess. And where my kids might not even acknowledge the birthday child. When I asked one of the people at daycare to tell me who the mom was (so I could meet her in advance) they said they were pretty sure I hadn’t met her. We didn’t seem to have much in common either. Hmm. Problematic.
But it’s a birthday, a joyous occasion that as a parent, you want to share with everyone. Erajh was barely able to talk me out of inviting Greenleigh’s pediatrician to her 1st birthday party. Seriously. It’s a nice gesture to invite someone to a party, and even nicer when they don’t know you personally, right? Parties are expensive and to be on the list is an honor. Plus, my kids love parties. I don’t think it even matters to them who the party is for. And we still don’t have anything going on that day, other than some car shopping that I’m trying to avoid anyway.
The party is this weekend. What would you do? To go or not to go…that is the question.